LUBBOCK, TX – Amid new concerns about child abuse, the Go Blue Lubbock campaign, held every April as a part of National Child Abuse Prevention Month, stresses the importance of protecting children and preventing child abuse on the South Plains.
With added pressures brought on by health concerns, job insecurity, financial strain, and other effects of the coronavirus crisis, children are at greater risk as parents and caregivers struggle to cope.
In 2019, there were 3,095 confirmed cases of child abuse in the Lubbock Region.
Fifteen children lost their lives in abuse or neglect related fatalities in this area.
The Lubbock area continues to have one of the highest rates of confirmed abuse or neglect in the state with an average of three confirmed cases in Lubbock County every day.
The public is invited to participate in the campaign by wearing blue on Go Blue Fridays throughout the month of April and sharing and tagging with the hashtag #GoBlueLubbock.
I am going to attempt to reach out to all Parents with this, although we want to draw young couples and young parents-to-be to Our Sites, where they can better prepare to be the Parents their Child needs.
No matter what kind of Parent you are, there is one thing you will never teach your Child.
The first, and most important thing a Child should “FEEL” is LOVE. I believe that when a Child is born, it is possible to be ahead. But let’s start from the beginning, and just so everyone knows, it is possible to, up to a point, to look at your wife and Child and say “I am so very sorry , PLEASE, I love you both, but I have wronged you both”. ( If this is the wife, just change the words to read accordingly).
You should love your significant other as much as you love yourself, and you should be an honest person already, if not how can you even think of doing your significant other and family-to-be like this????
The same goes for violence toward your significant other and a family????
IT IS WRONG TO IMPLANT INDIFFERENCE IN A CHILD’S HEART
While we are here, you and this young Lady(even if you are joining in on this as seasoned Parents) are forming a TEAM, and contrary to what anyone says, there is no master or slave.
Learn to open up and talk, but be totally honest. If you are not best friends, it is time you really get to know each other, and at this point you never, never, never, ever betray the trust in which you told each other your deepest… and dreams.
But now is the time to train yourselves to talk softly, and you both might as well get rid of the dirty habits: chewing tobacco… OK, what is it? No, No, not you just the Mother-to-be, since it is her job to deal with your young football player 24 hours a day for 11 years…. OF Course I MEAN YOU TOO, new Mothers have depression, and it is the Father’s responsibility to deal with their Child as much as possible, and that doesn’t mean just when you aren’t playing pool or horseshoes.
The other member of your Team will need a time just to herself, EVERY DAY, and this is not just her naptime, that does not count.
Now back to stopping things an innocent Child should not know: tobacco, cussing, arguing, fighting, alcohol, drugs(all 3 kinds, illicit, over-the-counter, and prescription, and that goes for the fake over-the-counter synthetic drugs), pornography, loud music, and junk television.
Next the Team will need to start early and get you a child-proofing-the-house list going, along with Emergency plans for various possibilities.
OK, when your Teammate conceives, it will be time to start talking softly to this bundle of joy while lightly rubbing and touching this “bump” as your Child grows. You can sing softly, and read to this soon-to-be addition to the Team.
It will be a really good time to prepare yourselves, so read-up on facts like bonding to Mom and Dad, Newborns get scared very easily, and most particularly uncontrollable crying, which is Purple crying or Blue Face(it was called when my oldest taught me the hard way what this thing is, that far too many end up hurting their Child for life by Shaken Baby Syndrome.
Last but not least, the things you DO NOT DO AT ALL, EVEN ONE(1) TIME!!!!
You never discipline a Child when you are angry. You NEVER talk MEAN to them, NEVER criticize them, if they are having trouble with homework, you help them, and if you can’t do the problems just imagine what this dear Child feels like in front of his peers.
Now it is time for you and your Teammate to start practicing Quality Time.
You can NOT teach your Child LOVE, it is a feeling, a felt thing. But you will begin as a smiling, long-suffering Parent, teaching your Child the basic qualities necessary to be a Good Family Member, Good Friend, Good Pupil, Good Citizen, Good Employee, Good Soldier, Good Boss, and a Good Civil Servant, by teaching Truth, Honor, Respect while being Respected, Duty, and Responsibility(which, by 18-years-of-age, will be Responsibility For One’s Own Actions).
This Child must be protected by you and your teammate for 18 years.
Waynesboro woman did drugs prior to baby being found dead
WAYNESBORO, VA – The case of a Waynesboro woman whose baby was found dead last year concluded Wednesday with a conviction.
Christian P. Haynes, 19, is facing the possibility of 10 years in prison after pleading guilty in Waynesboro Circuit Court to a felony charge of child abuse.
Zayden Haynes, just 7 months old, was found dead March 3, 2018, after his mother neglected to check on him for 15 hours, according to Waynesboro assistant prosecutor Elysse Stolpe.
The baby was placed in a crib with an adult blanket, an adult pillow and had a bottle propped up onto his mouth when Haynes last saw him the night before at 11 p.m., Stolpe said.
The next day at 11 a.m., Haynes heard the baby crying but opted to let him “cry it out, even though she hadn’t checked on him for about 12 hours,” according to Stolpe.
Three hours later, Haynes, 18 years old at the time, woke up shortly after 2 p.m. and posted a selfie online. Five minutes after that a 911 call was placed when the baby was found unresponsive.
Stolpe said Haynes began smoking meth three days prior to the boy’s death, which kept her awake for days. The prosecutor said Haynes was tired and “coming down off that high” when she failed to properly care for her child.
A search of Haynes’ residence revealed there was methamphetamine and marijuana in the home. A smoking device was found near the child’s crib and another one was discovered next to his playpen in another room, Stolpe said. Haynes also admitted to sometimes smoking meth inside a closet in the baby’s room.
Stolpe said a drug screen done at the home by an Augusta County Child Protective Services employee showed Haynes had meth and marijuana in her system.
“This underscores that drugs aren’t just a victimless crime,” Stolpe said. “A child is dead because his mother was too busy getting high and then sleeping it off.”
Stolpe said the Waynesboro Commonwealth’s Attorney’s Office considered a more serious homicide charge, but said an autopsy was inconclusive in determining if the baby suffocated to death. “Sudden unexplained infant death associated with unsafe bedding” was listed as the cause of death, according to Stolpe.
Following her guilty plea, Haynes, who has no prior criminal record, was allowed to remain free on bond.
Parenting and Nurturing Classes are Typical
Order in Child Abuse Cases
BISMARCK, ND – Tuesday, KX News told you the heartbreaking story of a 12-week-old baby murdered, and her father accused of the crime.
The suspect Jose Rivera-Rieffel has a past history of child abuse. We’re continuing coverage tonight, as we look at child abuse in our communities.
The accused Jose Rivera-Rieffel was court mandated to take parenting and nurturing classes through the court system.
However, he never took those classes as part of his probation process.
We wanted to know more about what these parenting and nurturing classes are, and how they can help the community.
Constance Keller has been teaching families about parenting for 10 years. The program is run through the Department of Human Services and the NDSU Extension Service.
Keller says well over 50 percent of those who take the course are mandated to be there.
She says the most important factor is that parents leave the program more empathetic. Keller says if someone has empathy, they simply will not abuse their children.
The North Dakota Parenting Program Facilitator adds, “They’re going to learn how to respect their children and look at their children as other human beings. You know, not just something they’re caring for every single minute of the day, but they’re teaching them how to go out in the world and to be a good person.”
The NDSU Extension Service also offers parenting tips and classes for people wanting more information on being a parent.
The Extension Service says it’s a misconception that parenting education is only for those who are bad parents.