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It’s Not Over Until The Bucket Is Empty

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Reporting Child Sexual Abuse after adulthood in Victoria, Australia has increased to 13,000 last year from 4,000 in 2010.

Woman uses bucket list to report uncle for Child Abuse before she dies

Victoria, Australia  –  A woman who was dying from terminal cancer ticked off a truly horrible item from her bucket list when she reported her uncle for abusing her as a child.

The unnamed woman had told her mother about the abuse when she was a teenager but waited until she was dying decades later to report the crime.

Her story was retold by her mother, Kaye, to Victoria Police’s podcast Unspeakable which aims to encourage victims of sexual offences to speak out.

It takes an average of 22 years for survivors of sexual abuse in Australia to tell someone about what happened to them and longer to report it to police.

However, reporting in Victoria, the Australian state where the crime occurred, has increased to 13,000 last year from 4,000 in 2010.

Kaye explained to Unspeakable that her daughter had first told her about the abuse in a phone call after she returned from an overseas trip, aged 19.

However, she told her that she did not want to report the abuse at that time and that she didn’t want her grandmother to know.

‘It was very heavy on the shoulders I can tell you.  At times I didn’t know what to do.  Because she didn’t want to do anything about it, I couldn’t do anything about it,’ she said.

Kaye tried to report the abuse herself but was told by Boronia Police that there was nothing they can do.

Decades later, Kaye’s daughter was diagnosed as terminally ill and had just weeks to live when she drew up a bucket list with reporting the crime at the top of it.

Detective Christine Robinson received the report and filmed Kaye’s daughter in her own home as she detailed what happened to her.

She was then admitted to hospital but police took her written statement to her bedside so she could read it in case she died before her uncle was taken to trial.

Within two days her uncle had been arrested, he confessed to what happened and within a week he had been summoned to court.

He pleaded guilty but due to the limits of the legislation that was used at the time of the offence received a five month suspended sentence and was placed on the sex offenders register.

But Kaye said her daughter would have been blown away by what happened.

She told Unspeakable: ‘She was hoping for a good result.  “It’s fine mum, I can die now knowing he’s going on the sex offenders list”.

‘I was pretty confident we would but she was sure we’d get the outcome we did.’